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Ending the Phone-Based Childhood

Not sure about you, but most families we know are touched in some way by the mental health crisis. So, when we saw the title of social psychologist Jonathan Haidt’s best-selling The Anxious Generation: How the Great Rewiring of Childhood is Causing an Epidemic of Mental Illness, we were intrigued.

In the fourth week of the month, as we turn our focus with you to Family Culture, Level 4 of your Trinity House, we’re happy to share 5 Family Culture takeaways we drew from Haidt:  

  1. “We have overprotected our children in the real world while underprotecting them online.” Amen, Professor Haidt. Implicit in this statement are two mandates for Family Culture: nudge our kids out the door (and worry a lot less about the scrapes and falls) for the “play-based childhood” they deserve, and step up your online protection of your kids.  
  1. Reflect on whether the sky-high “opportunity cost of a phone-based childhood” is worth it.“Opportunity cost” is the “loss of other potential gains when one alternative is chosen.” If our Family Culture is phone-based and passive, then we have made a decision to forego “other potential gains” our children could have known (no need to delineate all of those potential gains here…every parent knows deep down that the joys of a flourishing Family Culture are available to us in the deep end, away from the phone-based shallows). 
  1. Reflect on the proven near-term cost our children pay for a phone-based childhood: “social deprivation, sleep deprivation, attention fragmentation, and addiction.” When we compare these maladies to a Family Culture rich in relationship, peace, attentiveness, and flourishing, the choice seems obvious.
  1. Fill your Family Culture “with something noble and elevated” because if you don’t, “modern society will quickly pump it full of garbage. Haidt continues, “That has been true since the beginning of the age of mass media, but the garbage pump got 100 times more powerful in the 2010s.” Since the garbage pump is so powerful, parents today need to strive—by God’s grace, and in His peace—to infuse their homes with a love and attentiveness that, frankly, makes the phone seem like the reductionist tool that it is.      
  1. Discuss Haidt’s “four norms” with your spouse: 1) “No smartphones before high school.” 2) “No social media before 16.” 3) “Phone-free schools.” 4) “More independence, free play, and responsibility in the real world.”  

These 5 takeaways are only the tip of the iceberg. If you’d like to read an abbreviated (about a 45-minute read) distillation of the book, read his Atlantic essay, “End the Phone-Based Childhood Now.” It is so refreshing when social science delivers the same verdicts and evidence that we as Christian parents tend to make via theology, morality, ethics and common sense.

Parents who buck the trend of handing their young children a phone—and who instead double down on creating a Family Culture rich in play, true cultural pursuits, love, responsibility, attentiveness, and of course faith—take courage! By God’s grace, let’s trade the phone-based childhood for the heaven-in-our-home-based childhood, starting today!

> In case you missed the good news…last week we launched www.trinityhousecommunity.org in Spanish! Thanks to the efforts of a dedicated team of translators, the key Trinity House resources are now available to the over 500 million Spanish-speakers globally! And stay tuned…we look forward to launching a Spanish version of our weekly Heaven in Your Home Letters in the coming months.

> In her review of The Anxious Generation, “Stop Scrolling, Start Creating: A Wake-Up Call for Catholics” (Catholic Spirit), Christina Capecchi writes, “Adults are also addicted, which means we too must take a long, hard look in the mirror.” 

> In this Russell Moore Show podcast interview, Jonathan Haidt discusses his book, “the relationship between mental health and religion…and how religious communities are taking the lead in providing some protection from mental health problems.” 

> From last Sunday’s Solemnity of the Most Holy Trinity…here is our “How to connect the Trinity to your family life” (Aleteia) and “Cómo conectar la trinidad a cada aspecto de tu vida familiar.”

 

                                        

> Just released today: Three new testimonial videos from participants of our Trinity House Community Groups, now present in 8 states! Find these videos on our YouTube page. 

      

> Book a meeting with our team here to chat about starting a Trinity House Community Group at your parish. It’s easy!

> For those in and near Baltimore, enjoy the upcoming Trinity House Community Gathering at 5:30 pm, Sat. June 1, Saints Philip and James in Baltimore (learn more here).

> Begin planning now to launch your own parish’s Trinity House Community Group this September or later this fall! Learn more here and schedule a 15-minute call/zoom with our team here. For just $499 ($399 if you subscribe by May 31st), your parish can access all the tools needed to host 5 transformative “Heaven in Your Home Gatherings” for families, including videos, discussion questions, marketing templates, catechetical resources, ongoing support, and more. Dioceses can also take advantage of three subscriptions for just $899. Ready to subscribe and launch a Group at your parish? Here’s where you can take the first step.

 > Begin planning now to launch your own parish’s Trinity House Community Group this September or later this fall! Learn more here and schedule a 15-minute call/zoom with our team here. For just $499 ($399 if you subscribe by May 31st), your parish can access all the tools needed to host 5 transformative “Heaven in Your Home Gatherings” for families, including videos, discussion questions, marketing templates, catechetical resources, ongoing support, and more. Dioceses can also take advantage of three subscriptions for just $899. Ready to subscribe and launch a Group at your parish? Here’s where you can take the first step.

“Soren and Ever have hit on something very special here. Heaven in Your Home Letters & Guide is not a self-help book. What this book offers is something far richer and more organic. Rather than selling a new technique for living, the Johnsons encourage you to wake up to the life you already have as a family and live in it.”

– Calvin Smith, Director of Religious Education, St. Bridget’s, Berryville, VA   (from his Amazon review

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